Have you ever seen one of those lame 15 way to be a good boyfriend lists? They're basically a list of several things that a boyfriend should do in order to make his girlfriend feel like a princess. There are many different lists of this type circulating the Internet, and they are all equally stupid. At first glance they seem harmless, cute, and romantic, but women are clever creatures. They have the ability to turn everything you do, no matter how good your intentions are, into a horrible gesture. This is one that was sent to me and I've written down what you can expect to have happen if you follow these stupid lists.
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1. Hug her from behind.
And then listen to her complain that you don't hug enough from the front. Why not? Do you think she's ugly? Are you picturing someone else's face?
2. Grab her hand when you walk next to each other.
Oh that's original. Did you pick that up in grade school? You're so juvenile.
3. When standing, wrap your arms around her.
Why are you so needy all the time? Give her some free space you freak!
4. Cuddle with her.
Yeah, that's just what she wants. She goes to the bar to find real man to pound her hard and you want to cuddle. Give me a break.
5. DON'T FORCE HER TO DO ANYTHING.
That's right, let her walk all over you. If you want to see a movie and she doesn't just back down you spineless weakling.
6. Write little notes.
Oh how romantic, a post-it with chicken scratch. Where are the roses and diamonds? You're so cheap.
7. Compliment her Honestly.
First you'll have to find something about her that you can complement her in an honest way, so don't bother with her physical appearance.
8. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
For what, like two years? You've already hugged her from behind, held her hand, wrapped your arms around her, and cuddled with her. Are you some kind of stalker?
9. Be super sweet to her.
Saccharine sweet. Awww, you are soooo kwoot I wub you soooo much! That's so mushy she'll probably vomit on you.
10. Don't ditch her for your friends... invite her over to hang out with u and "the guys".
Because there's nothing she'll love more than to watch a three hour football game while you all do keg stands and talk about the celebrities you'd like to nail.
11. Comfort her when she cries.
How do you expect to do this when you're the one who made her cry in the first place you jerk.
12. Love her with all your heart.
Even when she belittles you in public, cheats on you with your friends, and kicks you in the balls. Grow a backbone.
13. Pick her up and flirt with her (she'll scream and say put me down but really she loves it).
So basically, ignore #5 at this point and read her mind. Sometimes she says no and means no, sometimes she says no and means yes. Don't you have ESP?
14. Be a GENTLEMEN (hold the door for her).
Then listen to her explain for five hours about how women are oppressed and should be treated like equals. Nay, worshipped liked goddesses!
15. Don't let your friends talk trash about her, it'll get back 2 her!
If you have any friends who have a mind of their own you must leave them because your amazing girlfriend can't handle the slightest bit of criticism.
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As you can see, adhering lists like this is just plain foolish. No matter what you do women will shoot you down. The best thing you can do with them is to just pick one at random and hope for the best.
Monday, April 18, 2011
How to Tell a Girl You Love Her when You Are Not Sure She Loves You Back
When you love a girl, sometimes it is best just to tell her, even if you are not sure if the feeling is mutual.its best if you do and not hold back for too long or she just might start thinking differently about your feelings toward her
1. Know that even if she doesn't love you, it is a relief to get this off your chest.
2. Don't make a big production of it. Just give it to her straight. Acting like
3. Don't be a prick/a drama king/queen could make her reject you. Don't get angry with her if she says no.
4. Remember, loving someone is not something people plan or do on purpose. Strong feelings like love arise from emotional stimulation, not choice.
5. Go easy on her, since telling her that you love her might be a bit overwhelming for her, and she may need a minute or two to think about it.
6. Wait for the right moment. Don't tell her you love her when either one of you is amongst friends. Wait until you are alone. But when you are, don't wait to tell her.
7. Respect her reaction. If she doesn't love you back, your life isn't over; it may hurt, but that's how she feels.
8. Make sure that you are sure you are ready for the emotional roller coaster of love. There are highs and there are lows; if you are just thinking of saying it to get laid, DON'T. If you really love someone, you will respect them, care for them, and be there for the good and the bad. Are you ready for that?
9. "I love you" is a statement, not a question. Don't expect an answer, because it doesn't exist.
Look nice and be sure to shower. This might just give that extra bit that was needed.
Be confident! Look her in the eye, stand tall, and smile. Most importantly, speak without hesitation, particularly if you act shy on a normal basis. You must demonstrate that you believe the words coming out of your mouth and can back them up with the strength of your devotion.
Don't tell everybody you know you love her before you tell her. It is not a good thing if she finds out on her own.
Love can be a tricky thing. She might change her mind after she gave you an answer. Don't stalk her to see if she has changed her mind yet.
If you have been her friend for a long time and now you want to be more, then she probably does not see you in that light. In this case, you must "change yourself" in the sense that you have to portray yourself as someone she can love and be attracted to, instead of just someone who enjoys spending time with. This change needs to be something positive for yourself and illustrate your good qualities. For example, start going to the gym: you get in shape, and suddenly, she starts seeing that well-toned man of her dreams with that personality she has loved all along.
Make sure you have an answer prepared for any possible reaction.
If she rejects you, ask if she wants to be/stay friends; letting her know you care about her might help change her mind eventually.
Consider not saying anything at all. No one likes needy people. If she loves you and tells you so, you're all set. If she doesn't, either she's not ready to tell you anyways, or she just doesn't feel that way about you.
Be yourself. If she rejects you, don't get angry.
No means no. If she turns you down, remember that there are other people out there.
She might say that she loves you back; be prepared for that. If she does, its most likely not okay to say every single feeling you have for her right away, express it over time and she will most likely realize how important you are to her If she is a friend, do not let that rejection change your friendship with her. Telling her that you love her should be to gain the closer relationship you want with her, not to weaken the one you already had.
1. Know that even if she doesn't love you, it is a relief to get this off your chest.
2. Don't make a big production of it. Just give it to her straight. Acting like
3. Don't be a prick/a drama king/queen could make her reject you. Don't get angry with her if she says no.
4. Remember, loving someone is not something people plan or do on purpose. Strong feelings like love arise from emotional stimulation, not choice.
5. Go easy on her, since telling her that you love her might be a bit overwhelming for her, and she may need a minute or two to think about it.
6. Wait for the right moment. Don't tell her you love her when either one of you is amongst friends. Wait until you are alone. But when you are, don't wait to tell her.
7. Respect her reaction. If she doesn't love you back, your life isn't over; it may hurt, but that's how she feels.
8. Make sure that you are sure you are ready for the emotional roller coaster of love. There are highs and there are lows; if you are just thinking of saying it to get laid, DON'T. If you really love someone, you will respect them, care for them, and be there for the good and the bad. Are you ready for that?
9. "I love you" is a statement, not a question. Don't expect an answer, because it doesn't exist.
Look nice and be sure to shower. This might just give that extra bit that was needed.
Be confident! Look her in the eye, stand tall, and smile. Most importantly, speak without hesitation, particularly if you act shy on a normal basis. You must demonstrate that you believe the words coming out of your mouth and can back them up with the strength of your devotion.
Don't tell everybody you know you love her before you tell her. It is not a good thing if she finds out on her own.
Love can be a tricky thing. She might change her mind after she gave you an answer. Don't stalk her to see if she has changed her mind yet.
If you have been her friend for a long time and now you want to be more, then she probably does not see you in that light. In this case, you must "change yourself" in the sense that you have to portray yourself as someone she can love and be attracted to, instead of just someone who enjoys spending time with. This change needs to be something positive for yourself and illustrate your good qualities. For example, start going to the gym: you get in shape, and suddenly, she starts seeing that well-toned man of her dreams with that personality she has loved all along.
Make sure you have an answer prepared for any possible reaction.
If she rejects you, ask if she wants to be/stay friends; letting her know you care about her might help change her mind eventually.
Consider not saying anything at all. No one likes needy people. If she loves you and tells you so, you're all set. If she doesn't, either she's not ready to tell you anyways, or she just doesn't feel that way about you.
Be yourself. If she rejects you, don't get angry.
No means no. If she turns you down, remember that there are other people out there.
She might say that she loves you back; be prepared for that. If she does, its most likely not okay to say every single feeling you have for her right away, express it over time and she will most likely realize how important you are to her If she is a friend, do not let that rejection change your friendship with her. Telling her that you love her should be to gain the closer relationship you want with her, not to weaken the one you already had.
31 ways to make a girl smile
I’m not a girl and I will never know if these ways can make girls smile. Every girl is different and and are pretty in their own way!
1.Tell her she is beautiful
2.Hold her hand at any moment … even if its ust for a second.
3.Hug her from behind
4.Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
5.Wrestle with her
6.Don’t go hang out with you ex when she is not with you, you might not relize how badly it hurts her.
7.If youre talking to another girl, when you’re done talking, walk over and hug her and kiss her….let her know she’s yours and they aren’t.
8.Write her notes or call her just to say “hi”
9.Introduce her to your friends … as your girlfriend.
10.Play with her hair.
11.Pick her up (she loves it)
12.Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn’t like it
13.Make her laugh
14.Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15.If she’s mad at you, kiss her.
16.If you care about her, then TELL HER
17.Every guy should give their girl 3 things: a stuffed animal (she’ll hug it every time she goes to sleep), jewelry (she’ll treasure it forever), and one of her t-shirts (she’ll most likely wear it to bed) or sweatshirts sprayed with her cologne!! and flowers or something occasionally.
18.Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you’re alone.
19.Look her in the eyes and smile.
20.Hang out with her on weekends
21.Kiss her in the rain (girls love this)
22.Kiss her just for the heck of it
23.If your listening to music, let her listen too.
24.Remember her birthday and get her something, even if its’n simple and
inexpensive, it came from YOU. it means all the world to HER.
25.When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don’t (it’ll make her happy.)
26.Always call her when you say you will, it may not seem like it, but it does hurt her and makes her think you don’t care so call even if you can only talk for a minute. Girls don’t necessarily have to have hour long conversations every night but its nice for us to hear your voice even for a quick hello.
27.Give her wat she wants
28.Recognize the small things … they usually mean the most.
29.Don’t hug her friends or your friends that are girls cause she’ll feel left out.
30.Hang out with her whenever you are free and u should be free to hang wit your girl friend all the time
31.If u care about her…SHOW her!
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